My Friend Aaron

I know people are wondering what happened...so here is the information I have on what went on. Aaron's mom is asking for a full autopsy, we will know more when that is over. His mom and I are talking daily. The story starts back in May when Aaron went to Puerto Rico with a group. While he was there, he was separated from his group and got in a cab. He was taken to the wrong part of town, where he was robbed and severely beaten. Aaron is trained in martial arts and a good fighter, so if it had been one or two people, he could have taken them. Since then he has been suffering from post traumatic stress and couldn't sleep or eat or go out. Thursday he was complaining of horrible stomach pains. His gf took him to the hospital. he was admitted for observation. They told Maura (his gf) to go home everything was fine. Friday morning he stopped breathing and went into cardiac arrest. They called his mom to come to the hospital after they had revived him. They were not sure how long he was without oxygen, but the doctor thought he had suffered brain damage. then while his mom was on the way, he suffered another cardiac arrest, it took them an hour to revive him and put him on life support. The doc told his mom there was almost no hope that he would recover. She decided to unplug the life support and he died between 6 and 6:30p on Friday. They have since found internal bleeding and the doc thinks he may have been bleeding out since May, but it was just so small that it wasn't until all the blood collected in his abdomen that he was in pain. They also believe he was suffering from minor seizures. His gf said that he would have these moments of 'zoning out', but they think there was previous brain damage and he was suffering this mini seizures. I know now that he is at peace and that give me peace.

Aaron and I have been friends or more than friends for 15 years. We met in high school history class. We dated briefly, but it just didn't work out, but we were always friends. While we have both changed a lot, our friendship hasn't. He called me every year on my birthday to sing to me. Aaron was a fun, outgoing, passionate man. He was always a gentleman and he was always a good friend. Aaron was the type of person to always put others first and make sure everyone around him was happy. I loved that about him. I have so many memories of him, I won't share them all. I am heartbroken and will have a place in my heart where Aaron will always be with me.

Pray for his mom and family. I know their grief is great.

very sad news

Tonight I got very sad news. I am still processing, but here's what happened.....I am watching Pushing Daisies on TiVo and my phone rings. I see that it is my friend Aaron's mom. I got excited and said "hello" and it is Aaron's little sister. This surprises me, but I said "hey what's up" and then she proceed to tell me that Aaron died. I didn't know what to say, I didn't really know how to feel. I haven't talked to him in at least a year, but I would consider him one of my closest friends. We dated in high school and while that didn't really work out, we remained close friends. I loved him very much. He was a great man. A great friend and a great brother and son. I somehow am relieved for him. I am happy that he has peace and has gone to be with the Lord, who will love him and take care of him. He had a rough life. His dad left when he was just a little kid and his mom worked really hard to raise him and his sister as good people. He just never seemed to get around to getting things in his life together. I know it all weighed on him and he felt like he was a failure at parts of life. So while I am sad and worried about his mom, I am glad he is finally at peace. I guess I take comfort that he is with our Lord.
I am very close to his mom. She always thought we should haven't stayed together and ended up married. At tough times in our relationship and friendship she has always been there for me, a friend and an insight into Aaron at times. His sister said his mom isn't ready to talk to anyone quite yet, but hopefully I will be able to talk to her tomorrow. I would like to go home to the funeral and say goodbye and be there for his mom. I don't know if this is possible, we will have to see.
To make matters worse, my own mom and dad are out of town, on a cruise! So I can't even talk to my mom! It sucks. And I wanted to tell people from school about what happened, but most of them I can only contact through facebook. Is that wrong?? I feel like they should know. I feel like a lot of them would like to go to the funeral. Oh this is so tough. I want to be there to help his mom. I know this is killing her. At least she was there when it happened and there with him. I am sure that is comforting to her.

Sorry this has been totally rambled, but I just needed to get somethings out. Pray for his mom and his sister, that they too can find peace. Just another reminder that life is too short and that you should cherish the time you have with loved ones. May GOD rest your soul Aaron! I love you!